Recently it has been discovered that many people are unable to begin a relationship with God the Father because of their own relationship with their earthly father. This sad fact is because we all naturally view God the Father as our earthly father to some degree. Thus the role of men to be good fathers who display our Father’s attributes cannot be overemphasized. If our father is abusive, unloving, unfaithful, short-tempered, or gone it can effect how we view God. When a father works day in and day out thinking he is helping his family he may really be hurting his children by not spending time with them and may unknowingly cause them to have a unconnected relationship with their Heavenly Father
Thus, men have a huge responsibility to become men who can be looked up to: Men who are loving and caring fathers who directly mirror their Heavenly Father. This of course means they need to be directly getting guidance from their Father. We men need to be constantly assessing ourselves and thinking about whether we are mirroring our Father. But not just assessing, acting on this assessment too. We need to be able to be shaped and molded not succumbing to the pride of being right. A good man is able to accept responsibility for his actions, and fix them when needed.
Women also have a major responsibility as well. It is important that in a dating relationship a woman be considering whether the man she is dating would be a good father who would guide his children in a strong relationship with God our Heavenly Father. She also needs to consider whether he is the kind of man who can lead the family in worshiping and teaching about God. A husband who is unable to do this may harm his children by not providing a standard of how a father should be.
This principles are often lost in today’s dating relationships. Men and women are not thinking about their future family and the children they will raise. They often are only thinking about whether they like the person and whether the person can be their soul mate. Although we need to be thinking about whether the person we are dating can be a good person, we also need to be thinking about whether the other person (and whether we) can be a good parent who displays the characteristics of God and is able and will teach them to the children.